Very often the questions addressed to me by my clients are phrased as follows - "When will I meet my second half", "Will I find the right partner for me" and finally - "Will I meet my soulmate". Seemingly, there is nothing strange about this. After all, each of us wants to have at our side a beloved one, who will be consistent with us. A person with whom we will understand each other without words, one who will accept us as we are ( with all the flaws and advantages, will love unconditionally and be devoted and loyal). A man by whom we will feel comfortable and safe. However, I think that you do not always know what the term "soulmate" really means and why we meet it on our way. Moreover, often informing you of the existence of such a connection, I hear in your voices the certainty that, despite the existing difficulties and obstacles, it will still be, against all appearing signs, the one.
What is really a soulmate?
When asked how we understand the term, we most often think of it in the context of romantic relationships. A soulmate is a person with whom we momentarily and unexpectedly establish a deep connection, feel a convergence of thoughts and feelings. We perceive her authentically - we perceive and correctly interpret changes in body language, understand the timbre of her voice, and subconsciously sense every emotion and thought haggling with her. And that's probably why, as if by automatic means, we reaffirm our belief in the inseparable nature of this type of relationship. Mostly we conceive of it as the "love of life" and a relationship until the so-called "grave." Yes, this may be so, but it is often quite the opposite. This type of relationship does not always mean a perfect match. The truth is that over the course of our life's journey, such soul mates may appear on our path innumerable, and their presence may include the full spectrum of relationships we create on different levels. And so, they can be not only our chosen ones, but also acquaintances and friends, family members, co-workers and business partners. There is no doubt that soulmates are undoubtedly people who play an important role in our lives, but in fact they have a specific mission to fulfill, and for this reason it often happens that some of them are present in our space only for a certain period of time.
Why does this happen?
In addition to the many qualities of the soulmate already mentioned, we should add an important thing, the fact that it is our reflection, a kind of mirror. Therefore, it may not always involve only the positive aspect of this type of connection. It happens that we may be attracted to a person for the reason that he will share more negative beliefs than positive ones. Then we can cause a lot of pain to each other, because the goal here will be to bring about changes in us, which are generally supposed to lead to our growth. The appearance of this type of person in our lives may involve the fact that, as if on the palm of our hand, he will show us our limitations, make us aware of everything that is holding us back, direct our attention to ourselves in such a way that we can change our lives. As a result, it can shake us up quite a bit, without bypassing our "ego". Many times it can also break our hearts. Contrary to the not necessarily pleasant feelings that may accompany us in this type of relationship, they are the kind of soul mates we need in life, because they are the ones who direct us to take the right path. It is through them that we realize our weaknesses, what mistakes we have made and what we should change, and we will learn many things about our lives and our being. However, we should not stubbornly cling to this type of relationship, get stuck in it at all costs - "because, after all, this is my soulmate", subordinating our whole life to the struggle for this relationship, for the love and attention of our partner/friend. It is worth freeing yourself from it, at the right moment to get out of it, which will undoubtedly enable progress and further transformation.